Archive | January, 2013
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MadeMark Photo: Contemplation

30 Jan

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Fear is not a reason to act your age

28 Jan

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At what age are we too old to take risks? At what age we too old to do those things we always wanted to do but haven’t yet? At what age are we … too old?

These questions came to mind recently when I commented that I waited until I was 40 to get my first of seven tattoos, and while I’d initially planned on only one, the tattooist told me I would be back. There’s something about the experience of being tattooed that makes many of us want another, not unlike a good stiff drink, but more slow-acting, more luxuriant in its pleasure. It was a significant year for me: my mother was terminally ill, and as I spent time with her in Indiana I began to realize what is now almost a mantra in my life: time is a non-renewable resource and every day I spend not taking risks, not pursuing my passions, not doing those things I’ve always wanted to, is a day I never will. That was fourteen years ago, and many has been the day I did not heed my own advice. But then, with my mother passing away, I decided it was time to do some things. Time to leave a job I was unhappy with (something I did again this year), time to be who and whatever I decided I wanted to be, time to get a tattoo.

Among the reactions to my comment was that people over 40 (why that is some kind of demarcation line in our culture is a mystery I’ve not figured out) who get tattoos are desperate to feel young, if not to appear it. That they’re emulating “the kids” and acting foolish by not acting their age. The same people, this man said, who wear shirts with buttons open to the navel, or skirts their daughters would wear, or who otherwise dare to act as if they have not passed that demarcation line, that they have not resigned themselves to giving it up, settling down, embracing the slow onset of calcifying age. They are not being proper, and for it they are a shame to themselves and an embarrassment to others.

When I got my tattoo as my mother died, it was not in any way an effort to cling to my youth, which had by then already left me in many ways. It was not to emulate anyone, given that the tattoo was invisible to most people unless they were naked with me. It was not a grasping of any kind, but rather a revealing, a coming-out, as I had come out in so many other ways: gay man, writer, bibliophile, autodidact with a high school education. It was me deciding I had no more time to hide from the things I wanted to do, the art I wanted on my body, the experiences I wanted to try before someone spread my ashes.

I’ve found myself sometimes thinking that someone ought to act her age, or that a couple with a significant age difference was somehow inappropriate, or that a man in his 50s, or 60s, or 70s, should surround himself only with his peers and do only things our culture has deemed proper for people their age. And then I stop myself and remember that their time, too, is of the essence. We ought to all do as we please, love whom we love, dress as we want to, etch whatever design attracts us onto our bodies, if that is what we want to do. Most often, I’ve discovered, in others and in myself, the insistence on acting our age comes from being terrified not to. Let go of the fear, take a deep breath, and dance.

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MadeMark Photo: The invasion is complete

28 Jan

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MadeMark Photo: Floating

27 Jan

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Writer & Actor couple Lori and Tom Romero join this week's podcast

20 Jan

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Lori Romero is a published poet, playwright, and fiction writer, and was nominated twice for a Pushcart Prize. Her writing has been published in more than one hundred journals and anthologies. She has produced, acted, and directed in a variety of theatrical venues in New York, Colorado, New Mexico and California. Lori’s short screenplay, Strange Saints, won the Manhattan Short Film Festival’s Scripts and Screenplay Competition. Lori made her directorial debut with her award-winning short film SURREAL ESTATE. She is also a co-producer and writer of the eco-drama web series Cyphers. Lori’s feature screenplay CONSIDER ICARUS was a Semifinalist in the 2012 Nicholl Fellowship, a Semifinalist in Final’s Draft’s Big Break, a quarterfinalist in Cynosure Screenwriting competition, and made it to the second round of Sundance’s Screenwriters Lab. Lori is also an avid stormchaser.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm3564258/

Tom Romero is a renaissance man. He has shown up as an actor in over one hundred stage productions, as a composer for several films, as a cartoon voice in fifty two episodes of Super Pig. He has released two CD’s of modern music, one of blues, and appeared on countless other recordings. He’s recently been spotted on TV in Vegas, In Plain Sight, and Lemonade Mouth, in commercials for sneakers and presidential candidates, and as Clare Danes’ boss in the upcoming film AS COOL AS I AM. He is a trained chef and occasionally makes his own beer. In the spring, you will find him chasing down back roads from Texas to Nebraska in search of extreme weather. To date, he has witnessed the touchdown of over twenty-six tornadoes.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1708382

Date: Wednesday, January 23
Time: 6:30 pm eastern
SHOW LINK HERE

Writer & Actor couple Lori and Tom Romero join this week’s podcast

20 Jan

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Lori Romero is a published poet, playwright, and fiction writer, and was nominated twice for a Pushcart Prize. Her writing has been published in more than one hundred journals and anthologies. She has produced, acted, and directed in a variety of theatrical venues in New York, Colorado, New Mexico and California. Lori’s short screenplay, Strange Saints, won the Manhattan Short Film Festival’s Scripts and Screenplay Competition. Lori made her directorial debut with her award-winning short film SURREAL ESTATE. She is also a co-producer and writer of the eco-drama web series Cyphers. Lori’s feature screenplay CONSIDER ICARUS was a Semifinalist in the 2012 Nicholl Fellowship, a Semifinalist in Final’s Draft’s Big Break, a quarterfinalist in Cynosure Screenwriting competition, and made it to the second round of Sundance’s Screenwriters Lab. Lori is also an avid stormchaser.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm3564258/

Tom Romero is a renaissance man. He has shown up as an actor in over one hundred stage productions, as a composer for several films, as a cartoon voice in fifty two episodes of Super Pig. He has released two CD’s of modern music, one of blues, and appeared on countless other recordings. He’s recently been spotted on TV in Vegas, In Plain Sight, and Lemonade Mouth, in commercials for sneakers and presidential candidates, and as Clare Danes’ boss in the upcoming film AS COOL AS I AM. He is a trained chef and occasionally makes his own beer. In the spring, you will find him chasing down back roads from Texas to Nebraska in search of extreme weather. To date, he has witnessed the touchdown of over twenty-six tornadoes.

http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1708382

Date: Wednesday, January 23
Time: 6:30 pm eastern
SHOW LINK HERE

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MadeMark Photo: Into the shadows

19 Jan

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